Last week, I pondered whether or not to cancel on my workout date with a friend of mine. However, I didn’t want to be the one who cancelled. So, I fervently waited on her… every minute of silence augmented a hope that we wouldn’t be working out together this week. Ah, no need to go for a strenuous run.
Then, I stopped myself abruptly and asked myself, “What are you thinking!?”
Why am I relying on someone else’s decision in order to make my own? If I didn’t want to go, then that should be my own decision. But why was my ego so big that I would rather it be the other person to cancel, than me?
I realized that what I should have been asking myself was, “Do ‘I’ want to go work out? Is MY physical health important enough to me that I would go anyway?”
So, even though I did not work out with my friend that day, I chose to make workout appointment with myself instead.
I guess the main message here is to realize how much your decisions are influenced by external powers when they should really be your own. There are so many appointments, dates, and events we must attend to in life–so many deadlines. I think we often forget that we ourselves, would greatly appreciate the appointments we make with ourselves. 🙂 Here’s to making more appointments with ourselves and scheduling time out of our days for ourselves.
“Get busy living, or get busy dying.” – Shawshank Redemption
I have a bad habit.
Last night, my roommate came back at around midnight and we spent until 3am talking and catching up about what happened over the holidays.
I slept in this morning. I couldn’t be helped, I thought. If I sleep late, of course I’m going to wake up late. Anyways…
I think we can all agree on one thing–everyone has 24 hours in a day to work with. I know this as well… however, I spent the next hour lying in bed wishing that there were more hours in a day instead.
It wasn’t until I got out of bed, when I realized how counter-productive my thinking was. Did I really just spend an hour in bed wishing that there were more hours in a day? Yes, I did. That is a bad habit of mine; this is not the first time I have thought this.
We all have 24 hours in a day. Let’s all try to make the best of what time we have instead of wasting precious time wishing there was more of it. This is a reminder to myself more than anything else!
Yes, that’s a dog stretching. Does this spark a memory? Even though these stretches are essentially the same, the dog version gets the limelight. And then, it got me thinking… the person who adapted this stretch to accommodate humans, must have been a dog-lover. This is the “downward dog” in its purest form!
How’s that for a bit of unnecessary enlightenment, haha! ;D Suddenly, I feel like stretching.
We speak about being free-thinking individuals who support equality and human rights. We cry out against discrimination and injustice. We try to uphold the law because by breaking it, we are committing a crime. We openly discuss our morals, our beliefs, and our values. We can do all these things… because we can afford to.
I was angry. I wanted to say things like: “Ugh… again? I cannot begin to describe how disappointed I am in you.”
I looked at the two messages. I wanted to respond with the intention to hurt, but didn’t. Instead, I clicked the screen off and went outside to walk. The winter night was calming and the trees were decked with lights. I started to forget about my anger, my disappointment.After a while, all that was left was a small hint of disappointment. I clicked my screen on, and looked at the two messages again.
It wasn’t even that big of a deal. Everyone makes mistakes. No one is perfect. I’m not perfect. Why was I so prepared to blow such a small problem out of proportion? I would be like saying, “No! You are not allowed to make mistakes. You are not allowed to be human!”
Angry impulses feel good, they tempt you with revenge. But no, that is a bad mindset. Mentally, I took a step back–pressed the pause button–took anger, and replaced it with forgiveness.
In the short-term, anger yields immediate reward but has long-term consequences. Forgiveness, although harder to harness, requires short-term effort, but yields long-term rewards.
It’s easy to fall into the habit of looking for something to love–something to keep you going when the momentum of excitement starts to wane–be it in a situation, job, task, or relationship. The thing about looking for these qualities, is that things change; humans change; circumstances change.
“It is important to look not for something to love, but to look with love.”
Maybe, it is the difference between:
“Well, at least […]. There’s that, I guess.”
“Yes, I love this […]. I haven’t forgotten. :)”
Maybe, that is all it takes to keep the exhilarating momentum of newness from fading. Qualities and features can change, but your perspective doesn’t have to.
Disclaimer: Of course, this doesn’t apply to things that make you absolutely miserable or harm you.
Motivation is the inspiration. Willpower is what keeps you going even after you realize that all that glitters is not gold–but fake gold–which tries to draw your eyes away from that which is at the end…success.